How We Misunderstand Strong Women

I recently called a childhood friend to talk to her about something that had hurt my feelings.

As I unfolded my heart to her, she remarked, “You just come off so strong and confident. I think people forget that your feelings can get hurt.”

This is not the moment where I offer you a humble brag with exaggerated posturing over how I don’t know how I possibly come off that way (“Who, little old me?”). Because I do know how I come off that way: I do it on purpose. It’s both a reality of everything that I have been through in my life and this protective shell that I have built around myself. It’s served me as ill as it has served me well.

There is nothing wrong with being a confident, self-possessed woman. But I think there might be something wrong with our perception of those women.

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