Relationships

Adulthood, Relationships

Rhythms of Relationship: Becoming A True Friend

Jasmine HolmesSep 20, 2019

A few months ago, I wrote an article for Legacy about friendship. In it, I tried to be as honest as possible about the struggle of being a transplant in Mississippi’s foreign culture, and my own hang-ups with making new friends. I hit send.  Weeks passed. A couple of months. Then the article went live.  And I had more than one friend reach out to me and ask me if we were okay.  “I thought we were friends!”  Undercover Trust Issues  I’m not a journaler, and I try not to use my articles as thinly veiled diary entries. However, there…

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Relationships

The One Where I Help You Reconcile the Old and New Me

Jasmine HolmesJul 4, 2017

Since that documentary and my early blogging days, a lot of people aren’t quite sure what to do with me. They have a hard time reconciling the old and new me.

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Relationships, Technology

Why Your Smartphone Is a Direct Threat to Your Friendships

Jasmine HolmesJun 26, 2017

To use our smartphones as a haven from the messiness of face-to-face, three-dimensional friendship is the enemy of authentic intimacy.

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Relationships

Single For a Reason: Eight Lies We Tell Unmarried Women

Jasmine HolmesMay 22, 2017

Imperfect people get married every day. So why are we telling single people that perfection will bring them a spouse?

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Our Wedding Rings Give Us Amnesia: On Empathizing with Singles

Jasmine HolmesMay 7, 2017

We were once all too aware of the pressure of being a single, but once married, forget what it was like to feel like a pawn. Our wedding rings give us amnesia.

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The Time I Was Called a Feminist: How We Use Labels as Weapons

Jasmine HolmesMay 4, 2017

Using labels like feminist as a weapon in debates is unhelpful. While they keep our lives neat and tidy, they also help us avoid the messiness of progress.

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Single Black Women in Evangelical White Space: Eight Things We Wish You Knew

Jasmine HolmesApr 10, 2017

Even as a married woman, I still find myself looking back and wishing that my white friends knew some of the unique struggles I had to face and that I still watch so many of my sisters in Christ face every day.

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What Friendship Is Made of

Jasmine HolmesJul 8, 2015

Though my husband was not an automatic best friend, God used our marriage to teach me some lessons about being friendship.

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Dolezal and Our Longing to Belong

Jasmine HolmesJun 12, 2015

Like Dolezal, we all long for identity and community — we long to belong.

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Five Lies You Should Reject About Your Breakup

Jasmine HolmesMay 1, 2014

This is not an article where I give the secrets to how not to do dating. This is an article written to my sisters who’ve experienced the pain of a breakup.

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You Can’t Love Me For Me

Jasmine HolmesFeb 14, 2014

I don’t need someone to love me for “me.” I need them to love me for all that Christ is on my behalf.

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What to Do When Men Don’t Pursue: Seven Truths for Single Women

Jasmine HolmesDec 4, 2013

Men need to pursue. Here are seven things women should remember when they’re dealing with a passive man.

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